Word of the year update #7

I was intrigued by this month’s topic for One Little Word. Ali Edwards challenged us to come up with stories that we tell ourselves about who we are, what we believe, that sort of thing. She shared an article by Brené Brown as a jumping off point, which you can read here. (Ali also recommended Brown’s book Rising Strong, which I haven’t read it yet.)

Anyway, the point of the exercise is to determine if the stories you are telling yourself are positive, accurate or otherwise. I’d never thought much about it until I got to thinking. What was I telling myself?

After a bit of self-examination, I discovered my story of spiraling thinking. Basically, it is a series of thoughts that take me down a rabbit hole of worry. One little worry (I should have written more words today) grows into a slightly bigger one (I should be reading more lessons on the writing craft) to a crazy one (I should quit pretending that I’m a writer and get a real job).

Now, in my defense, 2020 has been one of those years, but there are still things I could do to keep myself from getting so down on things. For example, I can remove “should” from my vocabulary.

I can also be kind to myself and realize that I can’t focus 100% on writing. I have a family and a life that I am an active participant in. There is enough time to do the important stuff. And it isn’t all important.

Until next week…

Photo by Carole Wolfe